On a lighter note, I di not realise that the ashes would be sealed in a polythene bag inside the casket. I knew I would want her out of that bag as soon as possible. I left it a couple of days, then late one evening one of her young friends called round to see the ashes out of respect, she and Aly were always out together and were close .
So we sat there drinking wine and I asked her, would you mind help me transfer the ashes from the polythene bag? she agreed, so we spread a clean white sheet on the floor, put the casket in the middle and began. But because of the shape of the casket-narrower at the top-there was no way of pulling this bag out, it was packed in so tight, we looked at each other and both said at the same time, what would Aly do? with that, I went and got three of Alison's pastry bowls. We then cut the bag and poured all the ashes into each of the bowls, then carefully poured all the ashes back into the casket, job done.
We both said Alison would be pissing herself laughing if she was looking down, as I'm sure she was.